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Feel Painted Into A Corner?

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Feel painted into a corner?

Hi, I’m Brian Pombo welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live. Today I wanted to bring up the third tier of what we consider the three tiers of BrianJPombo.com and just for review.

What we’ve been talking up until now is being Relationship Reliant and System Based.

The third one is, Reality Grounded.

Oftentimes we find ourselves painted into a corner because we set ourselves up that way to expect a certain result. If you do that, if you get caught up with your goals or get caught up with where you think things are going, you don’t allow flexibility to be able to move forward. I’ll give you an example.

This was a situation with one of my clients where we had discussed what the possibilities were going forward in the future. And when we had a meeting, it became clear, as everything started being laid out, that we were going to have to change slightly and go a slightly different direction.

It wasn’t a big move. In fact, it was original move that was planned that we had moved back to, or at least that was my suggestion, is that we moved back to this original plan.

Now, it would have been real easy to say, well wait, why are we doing that?

I thought we were going in this direction. Now we’re going in this direction. And there was some confusion there after we sat back and looked at it though I said, if you look at the big picture of things, we made the necessary changes, but that also made the original plan more of the the thing that we ought to do.

It made sense, at least from my limited perspective it made sense and that’s what I was recommending.

It’s real easy to get caught up with going in a particular direction and not wanting to pivot, but that flexibility, how do you build that flexibility?

One’s experience is going through enough situations to where you know you have to be flexible or you’ll break.

The main thing that I see that keeps people from being flexible in business is being too emotional. Getting emotionally invested in a particular outcome and that is being anti reality.

If you’re getting caught up with doing things a certain way, there is an emotional comfort zone that we paint ourselves into. It’s painting ourselves into a corner and you don’t quite know your way out of it.

How do you get away from that?

How do you get back to reality?

It’s about stepping back away from your emotional state, noticing that you’re in it, noticing that you’re reacting to something and just stepping back and taking a deep breath and saying, okay, what’s the reality of the situation?

What are we actually looking at?

What am I reacting to?

When you do that, you take that little brief moment to step back and take a look at the big picture. Everything tends to clear up.

Sometimes it means getting up and taking a walk. Sometimes it means, you know, getting a little bit of movement going and getting the blood flow into your brain.

But it all comes back on the inside. Step away from your emotions and come back to reality.

That’s why I talk about being Reality Grounded.

That is really the long-term concept that you want in your business. Reality grounding and then even if you aren’t in the reality state, if you fall into an emotional craziness, you want to make sure that the people that are around you can kinda hold you back and go, Whoa, Whoa, Whoa. Just wait. Take a deep breath.

If you’ve got people like that around you, then you’ll be able to do the same thing when they’re in that state and we can all balance each other out.

It’s very helpful to have people in your team like that if you like to know whether you are paying the most attention to reality or not, then I suggest bringing people onto your team that help you out with that.

I’m one of those people that you can hire out to be able to work with you on a weekly basis.

Go to BrianJPombo.com and you can look at some of the options that I have available for that. Also, if you are in the self-reliance field, meaning you’ve got products and services that help people to become more self reliant, go to DreamBizChat.com.

DreamBizChat.com, the link is in the description. If you want to go there directly.

Hey, we’re back here every day with another tip, another concept, either on a real large scale or on something very specific. Sometimes just a simple little tactic that might make a difference for you.

Come back here every day. We’ll go through another one. If you have any questions, leave a comment down below on whatever social media you’re at. Or you could always find all the archives of all of these videos and audios over at BrianJPombo.com.

Hey, you have a great night. Get out there and let the magic happen.

What Does Stress Say About Your Business?

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What does stress say about your business?

Hi, I’m Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live. Today’s a quick one just about the concept of stress.

This came to me while watching some people handle the stress within their own business today and also I saw a video online where a fellow was talking about how when he started to learn how to relax in business, everything got better.

So what does the stress say about you and your business?

It really says is that you’re not handling things right, and I’m not talking about stress. If you’re thinking like friction, because friction is a natural thing, you know, even a little bit of uncomfortably, that type of friction is necessary.

It’s absolute, it’s guaranteed to happen. You’re going to be uncomfortable in business and it’s a good thing.

What I’m talking about is the emotional stress is the times when you just aren’t handling things properly. And when you don’t handle things properly, you take it home with you.

If you’re lucky enough to have a home. If you have a family at home or what have you, and if you don’t have anyone at home, then you don’t have anyone to take it out on. You can never escape it and it’s mainly because you just aren’t handling things right.

It’s not about the circumstances of your business that’s pulling you down. The circumstances are easy thing to blame. It’s how you’re handling the circumstances and your difficulty in order in enabled that’s getting in the way of you growing your business comes back to that stress.

If you can’t handle the stress right, you’re not going to be able to see opportunity when it comes along.

You’re not going to be able to fix things when they need fixing. It’s all something to think about.

How do you go about handling stress properly?

How I’ve learned how to do it is just backing away from the emotional end of it. If you can back away from an emotional reaction of it and just let it ride and watch it, whatever’s bothering you, watch whatever’s tempting you to be bothered.

If you can just be a little bit separate from it and just watch it from a little bit of a distance, you’ll figure out how to get past it.

Just like you have every other time.

If you pull back far enough, you’ll realize you’ve always had these things. There’s always been something in your way.

There’s always one of these things that’s insurmountable that you can’t get. Imagine you’ll ever get past.

You will get past it one way or the other. You will get past it, but getting stressed about it is going to ruin your health.

It’s going to ruin all the relationships with the people around you and it’s going to make the whole process a whole lot more difficult. Learn how to deal with your stress and you’re going to figure out all those little details in your business that’ll make things better.

I know from experience when I learned well through time, as I’ve learned more and more and more about how to handle stress better, my business has gotten better and the whole path in front of me gets a lot more clearer and hopefully that’s helpful to you.

It’s just a simple, simple concept.

Certainly not something you haven’t heard before, but maybe a nice little reminder during this holiday season because things get kind of tight going into the holidays when everyone’s just trying to push through and get everything done at the last minute.

Something to keep in mind.

If you are a business owner or an executive and you’re in the self-reliance field, meaning you’ve got products and services that help people to become more self reliant, I’d love for you to watch a video.

Go to DreamBizChat.com.

DreamBizChat.com the link is in the description. Go and click on it. Watch the video there. I love to find out what you think about it.

If you think that you’d be interested in what I’m talking about on that video, fill out the application. We’ll see if we can get together and chat.

Love to talk with you about your business.

Hey, you guys have a great night. We’re going to be back here tomorrow night.

Have a great one. Get out there and let the magic happen.

Most Important Skill for Scaling Up

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What is the most important skill for scaling up?

Hi I’m Brian Pombo welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live today. We’re coming to you live from Grants Pass Oregon. That’s right. I’ve survived all the crazy plane flights and wild weather, the dry, extremely dry weather of Las Vegas. My Lips are still recovering.

If you’re used to living in a little bit more humid place, going to an extremely dry place in the desert like Las Vegas, you’ll notice that one way or the other, you’ll notice it. Not my most noticeable feature is my lips when it comes to handling really arid weather. So, but I’m back.

And today we’re going to be talking about scaling up, but first I just wanted to give a quick plug to DreamBizChat.com. If you are a business owner or an executive in the self-reliance field, meaning that you have products and services that help people to become more self reliant, go check out DreamBizChat.com.

There’s nothing being sold there. It’s nothing more than a video and an application. If you liked the video and you think it applies to you, fill out the application and we’ll see if we can get together and chat. DreamBizChat.com link is in the description.

Now we are talking about scaling up and this comes from a conversation that I had this weekend. I’m sorry for the shaky camera work. I don’t have my tripod with me. So bear with me.

A conversation I had this weekend with a very successful business owner, has owned multiple businesses in multiple fields and let’s call him Ray. His name’s not right, but we’ll say it is for the sake of this conversation.

So I was talking with Ray as he was discussing some of the situations that he’s been dealing with lately and very crazy outrageous situations. And even though he’s been very successful, makes a lot of money, has a lot of money, there are always going to be situations that you have no control over. And it doesn’t matter what the business is.

And this was a point that he was making.

It doesn’t matter what business you run, what business you own. I mean for the sake of conversation, if you’re running an organization, anything of that sort. The same thing’s true.

You’re always going to have the ups and the downs and the crazy things that are completely unpredictable that come about and come along in your path.

He said the difference between those that make it and don’t make it are whether they’re thrown off emotionally by it, whether they let these things shake them, you eventually have to get to the point where you’re not shaken by these things. And this comes back to one of the main pillars that I bring up on a regular basis, which is being reality reliant. Well reality based reality. Grounded I should say is the term I usually use for it. It’s reality grounded. And the whole idea behind that is to not be emotionally grounded but reality grounded to where you see things for what they are and not what your emotions are telling you that they are.

You know, when you get caught up with things and he said that is really the key.

And if you look at his life and what he’s been doing over the past, oh, you know, 10, 20 years, it’s been a progression of taking what he’s already known and scaling up and moving up on top of what he’s already done.

So currently he owns some automotive dealerships and has been pretty successful at this particular style and they’re scaling up. There are going to be opening more than to be doing more with that field. You can’t do that if you can’t deal the daily, nearly daily chaos that comes about with owning a business.

If you don’t have the ability to outsource that to people who are grounded. And if you’re not grounded yourself, you just won’t survive. You’ll get thrown off, you’ll drive yourself a little bit crazy, probably drive yourself into sickness because you can’t handle the stress and the unpredictability that comes with dealing with other people and situations that can’t possibly be predicted.

Good example of this. I like to think of the traditional farmer and all the things anyone that’s ever been in farming long-term, they tend to get a certain behavior. A certain attitude about things because there’s so many things that can go wrong. Just having to do with the weather itself.

And this doesn’t matter whether you’re farming soybeans or whether you’re a rancher with cattle. Weather will always happen to the farmer and so they’re always dealing with it and it’s completely unpredictable. I mean it’s predictable somewhat to the week and the season and so forth.

Beyond that, you don’t know what’s going to happen. You don’t know which crops are going to do well and which crops aren’t. You just have to be able to ride the wave.

You gotta think about this in terms of your business where you fallen off the horse, where you haven’t been able to make it, where you haven’t been able to scale up to the level you’re thinking of.

Is it because you’re trying to handle things that you shouldn’t be handling?

This should be outsourced?

Is it because, you are trying to handle the the things that are causing emotional instability for you. Is it because you’re putting people in charge that are emotionally unstable.

All these things are things that I’ve seen over and over again and my friend Ray agrees and I was so happy to hear him say that without any prompting whatsoever because it’s definitely, it’s something that I agree with.

Your emotional stability will allow you to scale up properly because you will expect the unexpected and not be thrown off and not label it as positive or negative right off the bat because it all leads to the same place if you’re able to ride the wave.

So hopefully that’s a little helpful for you. A little bit interesting to talk about. If you’d like to talk to me a little further, go to BrianJPombo.com and click on the link that most applies to you if you will. As I said, if you’re in the self-reliance field, go to DreamBizChat.com. Tomorrow I told you today we were going to be talking about the next podcast episode, but tomorrow we’re going to be talking about the next podcast episode because it really some really interesting stuff transpired on the last interview and I’d love to tell you about it, so we’re going to talk about that tomorrow.

In the meantime, get out there and let the magic happen.

Certain Death: React or Respond?

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Certain Death: React or Respond?

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Brian talks about reactions and how you respond can make a big difference in how things affect (good or bad) you because of it.