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Are you a mess?
Hi I’m Brian Pombo welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live. Today we’re going to be discussing the concept that a lot of business owners get hit with and that’s the idea that they are an extreme mess of a person on all levels.
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So I was accused by my wife of all people and some other people that I work with during the day of basically being an unorganized mess.
This is something that has haunted me my entire life. And no matter how hard I try not to be, it seems that if I don’t have something that is habitual, if it’s not a constant, it will get dropped along the way.
If it’s something that I don’t enjoy doing and it’s something that doesn’t fit into what I’m really good at.
I wish there was a way around this. I’ve looked over and over again. I’ve read time management books, I’ve read books about organizing. I’ve tried all the different methods, very few fit and have been able to allow me to do what I need to do as a business owner and an executive at my company.
Then I came across Kathy Kolbe. Now I don’t get paid by, Kolbe, the organization or the lady.
But Kathy Kolbe started exploring deeper the concept of conation.
We’ve discussed this on earlier talks here, on the podcast and the video chats.
Conation has to do how you function as a person in terms of when you are in action mode.
So whether you are working or doing schoolwork, when you are in the mode of action, you’re a different area of your brain lights up and his act is active and it’s separate from personality, which is more an affective.
Meaning it has to do with how you deal with people and how you handle emotions and so forth.
That’s the effect of end of your personality and it’s different from the cognitive part of your brain which handles just the regular day to day thinking and memory and things of that sort knowledge.
This is the conative part of the brain. It’s a specific area and what it deals with is you, when you are in action mode, when you are willing things to occur.
She found four separate areas that people tend to be high or low in across the board.
Some people are a lot higher in one and some people are a lot lower, but it seems to all kind of fit together. So that’s, this is one of her books, Conative Connection.
This is a good primer to kind of explain this and the reason why I bring this up is because most entrepreneurs tend to have a large amount of quick start. Now it’s not true across the board, but it is very common for the, especially the the visionary person in the company to have a lot of quick start and what quick start.
It basically means that you have the instinct to set things into motion, the instinct to follow through and get everything done and get all the little pieces done and focus on all the detail.
It’s an idea based concept.
A person who is very focused on building an idea and and not necessarily taking it fully into fruition. I have a whole lot of quick start on her scale. I have an eight in quick start and it’s followed me my entire life and my whole life.
I thought there was something wrong with me.
If you feel the same way, I highly suggest looking into Kathy Kolbe’s work. She has a great podcast out there that you could look up. Just look up Kathy Kolbe, wherever you listen to podcasts.
It is called, Perfectly Obstinate People, is what it’s called, Perfectly Obstinate People.
It almost slipped my mind there for a moment, but it’s called Perfectly Obstinate People. It’s a great podcast to listen to cause she talks about all the different conations, people with different levels. There’s nothing right or wrong about any of them.
It’s just the way that our brains are functioning and they functional.
She claims that she can see the conation in a baby, in a newborn and can follow through and she’s done it with all her children and her grandchildren and has been able to watch the conative abilities all the way through.
So it’s very interesting stuff.
Don’t fret and if I could have some advice for those of you who are unorganized and who are always considered to be a mess, don’t hold it against the people around you. They just don’t understand how someone can be productive.
While at the same time piling things in a seemingly unorganized manner all over the place and having what seems to be to be a very spontaneous lifestyle.
Don’t get worked up about it.
Learn more about yourself and learn how other people function and find people to help fill in the cracks in your life. Because if you’re very high in any of these areas and means that you’re probably going to be very low in the others and you need the help of all four areas in the community of scale to be able to really produce what you want to produce in this world.
Especially if you’re a leader, especially if you’re the boss of your company.
So that’s just a quick little note from me tonight. Have a great night and we’ll see you tomorrow. Get out there and let the magic happen.